Last Updated on February 8, 2023 by Arif Chowdhury
Sometimes we prefer to envision darker eras when lovers were separated and had to compose a very deliberate letter to be addressed and hoped to arrive at its intended destination if they felt love and connection for each other. But, ah, those were simpler days.
The modern world has cursed us. We’re disturbed by the extreme openness of everyone we’ve ever met, connected with, or made romance with via little gadgets; we maintain a connection with our loved ones at all times (even when we sleep, we keep it close to us).
Social media control our phycology and emotions.
It’s no surprise that we’ve developed a habit of monitoring our exes, their exes’ exes, their new partners, friends, coworkers, and so on a daily or even hourly basis. The urge to stalk becomes crazy day by day. But, unfortunately, it’s not constructive, not assisting us in moving forward, and it’s all much too easy.
We’re determined to be done with them and want to start our day and not go for our smartphones to head to their social media profile. True, we don’t want to, but we do. So, the question is – how can we get rid of this dirty habit?
Mark Groves, the creator of a Love and Breakup Recovery Course, seemed the appropriate person to help us resolve this internal struggle.
With social media out of the way, he gets directly to the heart of the past affair. “During the separation process, we must be kind to ourselves. When a relationship ends abruptly, our affection for the individual does not just go away.
We frequently feel even more connection with our previous love than we did while we were together because of the biochemical reaction to the end of a partnership. Isolation and sorrows are widespread in this case. And that’s why sometimes relationship advice is necessary for a quick fix.
It is a common physiological question: how do I stop stalking my crush on social media?
Well, here is how you should do it:
- Remove all the information about your past love.
- Keep yourself occupied.
- Find a new habit to replace it.
- Start a new relationship.
- It’s better to block their social account.
- Leave social media for at least two months.
- Moving forth with a fresh perspective.
It is easy to write down; however, making it happen is tough. So, why not read further about these tips and tricks?
Learn how to control your feelings and let them go.
So, let’s learn how to stop lurking on social media.
It’s common to feel rejected when love ends because one partner departs or deceives the other.
When you’re left, it may be a painful experience that makes you feel furious, your mental health suffers, and you become unhappy and valueless as you reflect on what happened, but is it necessary to pursue them? You may indeed have a healthy relationship, but the fact is – it is gone now.
Let them go on their new adventure. Why do you care? Why do you end up hurting yourself? Stop checking on their social account. Just think something else.
It’s important to understand that giving yourself a vacation from all communication with your past love is essential. At the same time, your recovery is a natural aspect of mourning and letting go after a breakup.
Looking at their ‘happy postings’ on different social media channels will not help you recover or move on; it will take down your regular activity, life, self-respect, and capacity to move on.
I want you to explore these six techniques to keep yourself from tracking your ex on social media if it becomes an issue:
1. Remove all the information about your past love.
You want to avoid being enticed to peek in on them or being informed of them accidentally when browsing your social media newsfeed.
2. Keep yourself occupied.
Be positive as much as possible, be with your old friends, go to the gym, achieve goals that will help you be happy, and go on a long trips.
3. Find a new habit to replace it.
Do you know that you can’t stop smoking until you replace it with a new habit, such as knitting or weightlifting? This principle holds for all harmful behaviors. So don’t waste your precious time stalking someone who doesn’t want you anymore. Instead, do some laundry, trim the grass, join in social work, or enjoy mobile or PC games.
4. Start a new relationship.
You will not dwell on your ex if you have another relationship hanging around. Of course, I am not talking about running around and being involved in an intimate relationship with the first person you meet. Still, it would help if you become used to dating and being with another person.
It will aid you in forgetting your ex while also keeping you occupied. And why punish yourself? You could enjoy another good company in the process. Who knows, maybe this new guy is your true love.
If your spying has gone out of control, you may need the assistance of Google (or a techy buddy if you’re fortunate enough to have one). Consider it as if you were putting parental restrictions on yourself since everyone needs limits from time to time.
You may break this harmful habit by taking a break from social media. It’s a perfect opportunity to absorb the gap and return to social media appropriately, without stalking.
7. Moving forth with a fresh perspective.
Accept that having an emotional spike after you lose a loved one is natural. They’ve most likely been there for a long time and have grown even stronger feelings throughout the separation. Recognize self-acceptance. Realize your value as an individual. Do not allow a relationship status to define who you are.
No one can make you whole, so cultivate the mentality of recognizing yourself better. Keep an open mind to explore new things, such as hobbies or special abilities that you didn’t explore with your past loved one. Develop supportive connections with individuals who easily accept you since this may assist in alleviating rejection emotions. Awake again by the opportunities that await you.
Conclusion.
Give yourself value; then you won’t have to ask this question, how do I stop social media stalking?
Examine how emotions of disappointment may be influencing your actions. Are you ignoring your health, hobbies, family members, or even old friends resulting from losing someone who doesn’t care about you? Seeing a therapist, joining a club, or hiring a divorce coach may assist with the healing process. Love and respect yourself, and don’t succumb to the victim mindset.
Recognize and understand your mind and body. It influences how you react to others as part of the healing process after a breakup. Your emotions of rejection will fade if you happily accept what occurred and let it go because you have to believe that the best always comes in the end.
You have more capacity and ability to be with great people in meaningful ways when linked to self-worth sentiments. You don’t have to define yourself by your breakup. A fresh perspective might assist you in healing and moving on in life.
Further reading on Cliobra: If you are interested in social media marketing, I suggest you read my other guide, “How Do Beginners Start Social Media Marketing? (Definitive Guide)”.